I studied birth order, I studied sibling rivalry: the natural next would be relationships: Adam & Eve stuff. I dunno maybe I should have started there…How to make marriage work.
Well I came across Dr. John Gottman and what he says(and studied) makes sense. It is really very simple: be friends first and continuously… 69% of issues are existing and unresolvable in every relationship: it’s the friendship and positivity(5:1) that makes or breaks the relationship.
And then there are the four apocalypse horsemen…indicators you should fix something fast or you are heading for disaster in your marriage.
I would recommend this talk of his you can watch on youtube ‘Making Marriage Work’ youtu.be/AKTyPgwfPgg
Oh and he has a cool app you can download ‘Card Decks’ to help you start some conversations(instead of dwelling on old ‘issues’) People don’t ask enough questions these days. Who knew?
You can join me on Mondays before eight am for Mondays With Marthie- I am busy sharing my insights on LinkedIn. And I’ll tell you a secret: it’s all about friendships. #BigSecret.
Don’t be stingy with your love: it is THE currency that will change your/the world!
Sincerely
Sr. Marthie Nel Hauptfleisch
Singer-Songwriter, Professional Nurse, Inspirational Speaker
“Find Your Purpose And Run With It”
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>The photo is me in front of a piano- where else? Jerry Pettit picked it as a thumbnail for our song on Youtube.
>The QR code: snap it to join me on LinkedIn. My goal is to reach 1500 connections(that is ‘next level’-first level is 500)
>footcare as usual
>I signed up for a music sync licensing course. Fingers crossed it will be worth the hard work I’m going to be whispering(Nell is writing her AS levels Cambridge exams and nobody-especially me- is allowed to make a noise…)
>You can listen to my new songs here for 5090 bit.ly/3gUfxNH Expect ✔️ghosts and ✔️Tao Te Ching
>The song I picked is a friend of mine who has been so kind listening and commenting on so many of my 5090 songs(fifty songs in ninety days: mostly the ghost songs!) I decided to cover his song about mature love that outlasts the storm.
THERE WILL COME A STORM
Words & Music By Jerry Pettit
Is there anything more lovely
Than love at first sight?
With that first infatuation,
Doesn’t everything seem right?
And you hope it lasts forever,
But it never really does.
Every time there comes a challenge,
Completely changes how it was.
CHORUS:
THERE WILL COME A STORM.
You will have no warning,
But the clouds will form,
Block the sun next morning.
Can you both conform?
Keep each other warm?
Because I promise you someday,
THERE WILL COME A STORM.
It’s how we learn what is worth keeping,
To separate the wheat from chaff.
Assess the missteps in life’s journey,
Learn when to cry and when to laugh.
Sometimes life is one big party,
Sometimes life’s a vale of tears.
Important not to be complacent.
The challenge comes every few years.
CHORUS:
THERE WILL COME A STORM.
You will have no warning,
But the clouds will form,
Block the sun next morning.
Can you both conform?
Keep each other warm?
Because I promise you someday,
THERE WILL COME A STORM.
GUITAR SOLO
There’s a reason they’re called “Golden”,
Those years when all the storms subside.
When you have gained some hard-earned wisdom.
You handle little storms in stride.
It’s time to reach out to your partner,
And take her hand inside your own.
For soon enough, you must release her.
That final storm you’ll face alone.
CHORUS:
THERE WILL COME A STORM.
You will have no warning,
But the clouds will form,
Block the sun next morning.
Can you both conform?
Keep each other warm?
Because I promise you someday,
THERE WILL COME A STORM.
© 2020, Jerry Pettit
